True Belonging Bene Brown

True Belonging does not require you to change who you are it requires you to be who you are.

You live in constant pain and seek relief by numbing it or inflicting it on others.
If you deny your pain you pass it on to those around you and down to your children

Find the courage to own the pain and develop a level of empathy and compassion for yourself and others that allows you to spot hurt in the world in a unique way

The thing I do when I'm afraid. I'm floating above my life, watching it and studying it rather than living it.

Trusting others
Boundaries - You respect my boundaries, and when you are not clear about whats okay and not okay you ask. You are willing to say no. Did I respect my own boundaries? Was I clear about what's okay and what's not okay?
The challenge is letting go of having to be liked, and the fear of disappointing people.

Reliability - You do what you say you'll do. This means staying aware of your competencies and limitations so you make commitments you can fulfill and balance competing priorities.
The challenge is not comiting or promising to please others or prove ourselves.

Accountability - You own your mistakes apologize and make amends.
Letting go of blame and staying out of shame.

Vault - You do not share information that are not yours to share.
Stop using gossip, common enemy intimacy and oversharing to hotwire a connection.

Integrity - Chosing courage over comfort. What's right over what's fun/fast/easy. Living your values, rather than just professing them.

Nonjudgment - I  can ask for what I need, and you can ask for what you need. We can talk about how we feel without judgment. Give up being the saver fixer helper as our identity and source of our self worth. 

Generosity - You extend the most generous interpretation possible to the intentions, words, and
 actions of others. The challenge is being honest with others about whats okay and not okay.

If you want to be really emphatetic, when correcting someone add "I'm learning all the time too"

Less offloading of emotion and more honest debate.
You know what I'm not sure this conversation is productive. I need to learn more about this issue.

In the midst of discomfort. LISTEN to the other person. Tell them "Tell me more"
Why is this important to you?

I am aware of whats happening around me the part I play in it and how I can make it better and that doesnt mean I have to deny the joy that is in my life.

True belonging is belonging to yourself so deeply that you can share your most authentic self, with people who want to be with you. Otherwise, you are just fitting in, where you want to be, but they dont care one way or another. 

Belong to yourself, be very concerned about how you look to Leo.

If you are offended when Hilary is called a cunt you should be equally offended when Ivanka is called a cunt too.